Smooth Over Your Break Up!

We’ve all been there: the class fling that turned into something more, the beautiful girl from the coffee-shop, the co-ed that lives down the hall.  You sparked something brilliant with them, and had a great 3 week romance.  But, now it’s time to end it.  The only problem is that you’ve got another 8 weeks of class with the first, 3 years of coffee purchases with the second, and 6 months of dorm living with the last.  You need to end it, without making it awkward.  Although break-ups are always ugly, there are a few things that you can do to make it better.

Don’t Make Promises You Can’t Keep

When you are in love, it can be easy to promise things like undying devotion.  Those promises can be awfully hard to keep, and breaking them is going to hurt.  Be realistic when you are in your relationship.  If you will be leaving college in a semester and working abroad, and they still have 3 years left, don’t pretend that you will put off a career unless you are really willing to do it.  If you have no intention of coming back for them, don’t say you do.  If you don’t really feel in love with them, don’t lie about it, and you’ll all be happier.

Be Blunt About The Future

You might not know exactly where you are going, but you have a pretty good idea.  Talk about it.  Don’t pretend like you aren’t going to see each other in classes, coffee shops and on campus.  Bringing up that issue now will make it easier for both of you to deal with later.  You need to be honest with them if it is going to be hard for you to maintain a friendship.  Telling them now that you need to keep your distance will help the coming weeks to run smoother.

Say It To Their Face

There is nothing quite like the text break-up to crush a heart.  Breaking up with someone is hard, and shielding yourself behind technology might seem like a great idea, but it is only going to fly back in your face.  Printed words and even telephone calls lack the facial cues that give deeper meaning to your words.  It is much easier to come off as callous or mean online.  Face them in person, so that they don’t feel used, and so that they can see your sincerity.

Don’t Expect Too Much, Too Fast

When it comes down to it, there is no easy way out of a break-up.  No matter how congenial and mutual the break-up is, there are going to be a lot of awkward moments ahead.  If they were more invested than you, or if they didn’t see it coming, then they are going to have a much harder time than you are.  Don’t expect to be able to go back to normal right away.  Give them time, and keep your distance if necessary.

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