7 Tips to Sustain a Relationship!

One sees a girl, she gives a killing smile and you fall for her. Things start to get working and you do not even know that you are already in a relationship. Things go really well in the starting and you feel that you have found a perfect soul mate. And then suddenly things become askew without any appropriate reason and finally the relationship is called off.

What we have seen these days are men are ending their relationships very abruptly. In the starting the women seems like a soul mate with whom they would like to spend the rest of their life but suddenly they start seeing themselves as some devilish creatures. However men do realize their mistake but by that time it’s too late and damage cannot be repaired.

One thing which needs to be thought over is what is the reason which makes men walk out of perfect loving relationship? There could be lot of reason some valid while some non-valid but the important thing which needs to be realized here is that, walking out of relationships could develop into a habit and then he might not be able to sustain a relationship ever. One of the most common reasons given by men for their short term relationships is that they feel that all the women they have dated are a failure and losers who fails to acknowledge their problems. And the situation tends to keep repeating itself which is quite a problem.

Some of the other reason for ending a loving relationship is their once a hostile experience with the opposite sex in their past. While some men just look for flings and do not wish to sustain a relationship. Then there are few men who get infatuated too early and get out of it early too, this happens quite rapidly with them. The reason behind this is they are a bit irrational, too self-assured and extremely spontaneous. They enter into a relationship very soon and every time they do so they will think that this is their final destination but after couple of weeks they will start getting restless and bored, and finally search for new avenues start. This kind of men need a self-esteem boost up as they are too insecure in life and this makes them changes their mind frequently.

The next category is of the men who are out on the marriage mission. They have check list in their mind of attributes and qualities a woman should possess. He might even take her home to meet her parents but after few months only he realizes that she is not the right girl and deep down in his heart he knows he cannot stay committed to her. And this ultimately leads to end of the relationship.

Here are few questions which will confirm whether you fall in any of these categories or not. Try this quick self-test quiz.

1.    When meeting a new woman, you feel more alive and vibrant?

2.    You never had a relationship which lasted for more than 6 months?

3.    As soon as the relationship starts sustaining you feel bored?

4.    For every girlfriend you thought she is the perfect one?

5.    U dated more than 5 girls in past one year?

6.    Ever being accused of afraid to commit?

7.    Charm of the woman you date starts declining with time?

If you have answered these questions in affirmation then it is high time you accept the truth that you are fickle minded and commitment is not your thing. It is better to consult a therapist if you really want to enter into a long term relationship.