How to Control the Anger?

Lately I realized that I get angry at times. Recently I am seeing that anger controls over my senses badly and it becomes hard for me to control this anger. Read on this blog post of mine on how to control the anger.

I thought myself as the person with lots of patience. I was true up to a few days back, but then I realized that I am also losing my patience on anything going wrong in my nearby. I watched myself that I am reacting harshly on anything which is against the rules, unnatural or unethical.

Though I know the ways to control my anger, but then I realized that every one of us get angry on occasions. The biggest concern with anger is that it might damage your mental as well as physical health too. Which I don’t think is required. After all we should know this art of controlling our anger. And hence I am coming up with this blog post.

How to Control the Anger? 

There is nothing harm in being angry, but then we will have to know how we can control this anger. If we cannot be able to control our anger it will surely damage our mental peace and might fall us with the diseases like high blood pressure, stress, etc. which is too bad.

Why am I saying all this is because of one recent incident happened with me, in which one of the auto driver of our very own Delhi (most of my readers must be aware of the ill-treatment autowalas do in Delhi) refused to take us to the railway station, while he was ready to go there, but one he was charging almost double and second he was not ready to take from the route I was telling him to go, as that route was shorter and I was sure that we can reach station on time by that route, but he was keen to go from some other route, which was having too rush at that point of time and even some other point of time as well.

The moment he started arguing with me, anger prevailed on my mind, and don’t know how I lost my patience. I was just up from the viral fever and my wife and my little angel were with me, who two were suffering from the viral only, and it was a hot sunny day out here in Delhi in the month of July.

I must admit over here that the anger prevail my mind so much that I literally used some abusive language to that autowala too, which was actually not good. I should not have uttered those slang language, especially in front of my wife and my daughter, but then I normally don’t utter such words.

This incident and then a few more incidents in the recent time forced me to think about my temperament. I was always considered as a guy with patience and I was the same who was losing patience just because of others?

And hence I decided to control my anger. Although I have shared some blog posts in past on patience (Patience – The Secret behind a Happy Life! one of my favorite blogs) and even on stress (Stress Management: How to Reduce, Manage, and Tackle Stress! and How to Manage Stress!) and even on steps required to stop anger before it becomes too late, but then I thought I did not shared any post on how to control anger.

Why am I so Angry? 

Before controlling your anger, the first thing which you need to know is the exact reason behind your angriness. Honestly anger is too dangerous for any relationships; it always causes negative impact on any person’s life.

Like in my case, when I analyzed I found that I became angry on someone, if they are doing something unethical, unnatural or against the rules things. Similarly I noticed that I became angry on people who use to tell me lie for anything.

So, those were some of the reasons behind my angriness, otherwise I am not a mad guy who can bite everyone who will come closer to me. 🙂

The moment you thought that you will control your anger, and you analyzed the exact reason behind your angriness, I guess you achieved half the success in controlling your anger.

You know what the very strange and unusual things about anger are that not everyone shows it in the same way, and not even the reasons behind anger will remain same for different persons.

So, it is you who need to identify the exact reasons which might make you angry. And then only you can have some solution.

Take a Break 

My dear friends always remember one thing that not everything will go as per your plan, or as per your way, all the time, it must be different than what you assumed it to be. So it is you only who need to adjust with the unnecessary situation.

The best way to do so is to take a break from what is happening around you. Stop what you are doing at the same moment when you analyze you are getting angry over it. I usually start writing on my tablet, notepad, pc, or even on mobile phone too, when I realize that I am getting angry on something or someone. This actually helps me to divert from the irritating situation and also allow me to focus on my main motto, i.e. blogging.

I am sure you cannot get away physically from the things which are irritating you, but then with the diversion of your mind from such things, will definitely allow you to get away mentally from those things.

Consider some of the situations in our life, you are driving or traveling and you came through some bully guys, simply get away from them to control your anger. The more you will argue with them, the more you will become anger, so better to take a side from those types of people.

Consider you are working in your office and getting angry because of some unnecessary rules imposed by management, step outside of your work area for few minutes, have a cup of tea, or take some snacks and see you will forget about it.

It is normal that we get angry or upset from our loved one at our home, avoiding them also becomes too difficult for us, then in that case we should go for a walk or we can simply hide our self in washroom or in some room where no one can disturb us for some time. It will simply help us to control our anger. Instead of arguing to your own near ones it is a better way to take a break from things which might be irritating you.

Deep Breath 

Normally closing your eyes and taking deep breath is the ideal way to tackle angriness. Try to close your eyes and imagine that you are at somewhere else; somewhere you have all the peace, and take deep-deep breath and realize how easily you can control your anger.

Drink Cold Water 

Sometimes drinking cold water also helps a person to control their anger. I am not sure about what scientific reasons is behind all this, but honestly it works. If you are feeling that you are becoming angry on someone, it is better to drink a glass of cold water. You will realize that it has left a positive impact on yourself.

Ask Your Friend 

As I said so many times in past too that friends are the very essential part of your life, they can help you to come out of the anger stage as well. This is the reason why I always say that good friends are very much required in our life and we should never break the friendship with them.

Note it down 

Sometimes note down the things which are irritating you and then destroy the paper. I am sure this technique also helps you to deviate from those anger causing elements. You might ask me why am I saying to destroy this paper is that your reasons of anger should not be known to someone else; otherwise it might also create tensions among you.

Engage Yourself 

The moment you are getting angry on something, instead of staying anger inside you it is better to engage yourself on some physical activities, some sports, or some mental game as well. This will definitely divert your mind from those things which are causing anger among you.

Think About It 

Sometimes if you seriously think about it, and try to consider the same situation from others perspective, it might also help you to understand that you might be wrong this time. Not always you will be right, sometimes you might also be wrong, but then you were not being able to analyze it.

So, when you think about it in a different perspective I am sure it will surely help you to understand it properly.

Relax Yourself 

If you tried everything which I mentioned above, then the last thing which you can do is to find out the way to relax yourself. You should know if a movie, or comedy serial, or a theatre can be able to help you to relax down, or even ten minutes of Facebook surfing will do help you.

In my case whenever I became so angry that I thought I cannot be able to control it, the best thing I do is to watch comedy serials on TV, and it automatically helps me to control my anger.

Honestly, if you will realize that you look too ugly whenever you are angry, you will never be angry. Remember how bad it will look to your daughter, or to your son, or to your wife too. So just consider the beautiful smile of your loved once when anger is trying to prevail on you.

I am sure the cute and smiling face of your loved one will surely help you to control your anger.

Being said that, I am going to finish this blog over here only. I guess this blog post is also useful for you as other blogs of mine. I would request you to share your opinion about it, in the form of comments. You can also share some of the ways to control your anger which I might have missed over here, or I was not being aware of too. I will be waiting for your comments on it.