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Have you seen the movies Sathiya and Chalte Chalte? These are simple love stories but they depict a stark reality of life. Be it love marriage or arranged marriage, the initial fervor of love is sure to get buried under the burden of responsibilities and practicalities of life. Then the cute love story of a boy met a girl, fell in love at first sight, said he would do anything to marry the girl, fought with his own parents, ran and got married and dreamt of staying happily in love forever, sounds like a fallacy.

Why does every love story meet the same fate? The reason is simple. Before you tie the knot, you can live in the fantasy land and dream about whatever you want to. In this journey you include your girlfriend or boyfriend also and everything looks rosy.  There is no responsibility except the craziness for each other. And the biggest factor is that you still are living separately and don’t have full control over each other. But the moment you get married, subconsciously you start taking your spouse for granted from day one. You don’t have to get ready to go and meet her/him in the evenings anymore. That person is with you 24 * 7.

Another important factor is that after marriage not only does your family, your society but even your spouse expects you to behave maturely and responsibly. They would no longer neglect your mistakes. You are required to behave as a reliable family member and expected to follow all the rules and regulations of the family.

It’s rightfully said that any kind of marriage can only work if there is mutual understanding and compatibility. The initial passion can only be sustained over the years by constant hard work. You cannot expect your spouse to keep showering sweet nothings on you till eternity. Every marriage has to sail through ups and downs and only those marriages survive the test of time which are build on strong foundation of trust, mutual respect and adjustments. Every marriage expects some level of compromise from both the partners. You have to nurture the values of humility and patience to make your marriage work. Love marriages can also work only if “I” changes to “us” and remains like that forever.

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Teenage is that phase of a person’s life which is the most troublesome, not for the teenage kid but for his parents! We all know it is so tough to handle teenagers, especially in the modern age where their demands are ever increasing.

Peer pressure and competition has fueled their demands even more. In the race of staying ahead teenagers are not teenagers any more, they want to be treated like grown ups and how! These days since most of the kids are tech-savvy, they want latest gizmos too. And one gizmo that is right up on their priority list is that latest mobile phone which is better than their friend’s. And the parents of these kids are definitely is a fix, as to whether buy them a mobile phone or not.

What parents feel: Seeing the recent MMS cases of school kids the parents certainly feel that getting their young one a mobile phone is going to spoil them. But the teenagers feel that having a mobile phone in today’s age is a must. Some parents do feel that mobile phones are essential for kids, as they can stay connected all the time. In today’s time the parents themselves are so busy that they can’t be with their children 24X7. So in such a situation a mobile phone is a useful gadget to know what their kids are doing and to keep a check on them. But what is to be done when the mobile which helps them to stay connected with their kids itself is spoiling their kids? The features like video recording, camera, Bluetooth, and MMS can be easily misused by the kids. That is what holds back a parent from buying a mobile phone to his kid. Also, a mobile phone doesn’t connect a child to his parents, but also to his friends. So most kids end up chatting with their friends all the time. There have recent cases where students have been caught using mobile phones in the schools. Such usage of mobile phone certainly hampers their education and studies. But obviously a mobile phone is useful for the kids if it’s used properly.

What teenagers feel: Young teenagers have another story to tell. For them mobile phone is something which is part of their life and they can’t do without it. It helps them stay connected to the global world which is very important in today’s competitive world. When parents themselves want their kids to be ahead in every field then why not to buy them a mobile phone when their friends have one. It is so demoralizing for a child when his friend is flashing his latest phone and the child doesn’t have one of his own. It makes the child feel discouraged and low on self esteem.

Use of mobile phones for teenagers: This is a communication age and a mobile phone is the ultimate tool for communication. With mobile phones having new and enhanced features like internet and blogging, it gives a child to express and display his creativity too. Also they want mobile phones have their own private space. Also teenage is such an age when a child trusts and shares with his friends than his family. So obviously they need the mobile phone to talk to their friends whenever they want to, whether at midnight or early morning. Apart from all this mobiles these days have various features like radio, video recording, and mp3 players which are entertainment sources for teenagers. So whenever they are getting bored they have their entertainment in their hands if they have a mobile phone.

To do or not to do: Well, having a mobile phone for teenagers is not that bad idea after all. But see to it your child is not misusing it. It’s very important for the teenagers to understand themselves that having a mobile phone is utility, not facility. They have to understand that teenage is such a naïve phase of life and they should not take such a step which can ruin their future. Also parents can keep a check to give their teenaged kids such phones which do not have features like camera and video recording, so that the phone can’t be misused by them.

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Niketa Mehta, who loses the case of her appeal eight days back in Bombay High Court to abort her 25-week-old fetus detected with a congenital heart problem, has suffered a miscarriage on Wednesday. His husband, Haresh Mehta, a stockbroker, had confirmed the news that she suffered a miscarriage on August 12.

Haresh Mehta blamed intense media pressure for his wife’s high blood pressure and increased stress level which led to the miscarriage.

The couple had challenged the country’s 37-year-old abortion law (Pregnancy Act of 71) that does not allow termination of pregnancy beyond 20 weeks unless it harms mother’s life or health.

After medical reports that her child would be born with a complete congenital heart blockage and malpositioned arteries, the couple had sought the termination of the 25-week-old pregnancy. But on August 4, the Bombay HC dismissed the plea saying that the case is not convincing.

The medical report had claimed that the child would have required a pacemaker soon after birth. The case has divided the country into two sides - one against the abortion and the other which favors the couple.

Confirming that his wife Niketa had a miscarriage on Tuesday, Haresh Mehta said, “If not the court, at least god was on our side.”

Well, its god own justice to the couple and their unborn baby. Whatever it happens, it happens for good but the case had caught much attention by the country and media which left many questions unanswered. Should the 37-year-old abortion law needs amendment? It is the one of the biggest question on the law.

Tags: Abort, Abort Child, Abortion, Child, congenital heart, Court, Harrish Mehta, Niketa Mehta, Parents

The Bombay high Court on Monday dismissed Niketa Mehta and Harish Mehta’s plea to abort their unborn 24-week-old fetus which may have a congenital heart defect.

The couple appealed in the court after they discovered that the unborn child had blockages in heart. They appealed that they won’t be able to afford to care for the baby or endure the trauma. But the court did not find the case convincing and dismissed the appeal. The court ordered a special committee from JJ Hospital to “give an additional confirmed opinion”.

“Can a life be killed once you have it,” the court asked.

The couple are pleading the case on the basis that the child is suffering from a congenital heart block that would require a permanent pace-maker, meaning that the child would have a disabled life and would also hurt them financially which they would not be able to afford in the long run.

Different specialists gave different views on the matter. According to report of JJ Hospital, there are very less chances of having a congenital handicap at birth.

While the couple, who had love marriage and the unborn baby is their first child, cited doctor’s report that asserts that the child will suffer critical problems even with a pace-maker some experts said that there might not needed any operation while pregnancy or immediately after birth to cure the baby. The baby can survive normally with a pacemaker

The issue became debatable and it is still on. The couple is confused whether they should appeal in Supreme Court or should they leave the case. Some lawyers said that it is like a case of mercy killing.

This is not the issue of mere choice. Its not a thing one can choose with his/her wish. It is a matter of life- a human life. No one has any right to destroy a life but this case is a bit different. Choice is to terminate the life before birth or to provide a life time pain to the child as well as the parents. Is it justified to terminate the life?

The case also gave rise to a debate whether there should be amendments in the abortion law. The case had given a challenge to the country’s 37-year-old abortion law that does not allow termination of pregnancy beyond 20 weeks unless it harms mother’s life or health. But the government ruled out on Monday amending the abortion laws in consideration of similar cases.

“As it is today going by just one case, I do not think the law can be amended,” Union Health Minister Anbumani Ramadoss told the media.

Tags: Abort, Abort Child, Abortion, Child, congenital heart, Court, Harrish Mehta, Niketa Mehta, Parents

After the terrific incident of getting paralysis by Shinjini Sengupta followed by allegedly rebuked in a reality show, Union Minister for Woman and Child Development Renuka Chowdhury on Tuesday said that parents should be prevented from sending their children to reality shows.

She strongly believes that the reality shows were violating rights of children and they should be kept away from the shows.

Referring to Shinjini Sengupta, a teenage girl here who became partially paralyzed allegedly after being publicly humiliated at a reality show, the minister said despite knowing that the girl had a problem in her spinal chord, her parents had sent her to the show.

“The other day, I saw a tiny girl suggestively gyrating to a song whose meaning she obviously did not know. What do we say to parents sending their children to such shows?” Chowdhury said at a workshop on Amendment to the Indecent Representation of Women (Prohibition) Act, 1986.

“My biggest challenge is not so much to educate men but women. They deserve kudos for keeping up the family life despite so much oppression at home.” she said while pointing towards lack of awareness in women.

Shinjini Sengupta, a 16-year-old teenage girl is attacked by paralysis after she was rebuked by the judges at a reality show on a Bengali television channel.

Serious questions are arising after the incident as whether the wanton use of children and teenagers in reality shows all in the name of talent hunt for that elusive element called fame is really worth it?

Tags: Children, Parents, Reality Show, Renuka Chuwdhury, Shinjini Sengupta