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Which one is better - Love marriage or arranged? The issue is debatable all over the globe especially in eastern countries where arrange marriage is a tradition. As you read this question which option strikes in your mind first and why?

Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. Love marriage is supposed to provide freedom and more independence as compared to arranged marriages where the girl/boy is chosen by the parents. The usual question of love marriage voters against arranged one is that how can anyone marry the person whom they don’t know?

Amid popular love lore like Soni Mahiwal, India always had a long tradition of arranged marriages. With the advent of the British and the subsequent introduction of British education system more Indians got educated. Education and exposure to the media, started to make people to think and realize they need not be bound by tradition and they can choose their own marital partners without having to rely on parents, matchmakers, relatives or having to consult astrologers. This gave rise to love marriages. Currently in our country we have arranged as well as love marriages taking place.

If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both has certain pros and cons. If we talk about the love marriages first, it provides time for a mutual understanding between the partners which is needed for any successful relation. Knowing somebody before marriage allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other’s needs and desires. This way they are better adjusted in the marriage when they finally take their wedding vows. In arrange marriages, there is a pressure to conform to parental expectations like producing a male heir, taking part in family rituals and traditions, putting up with sisters-in-laws, contributing to family expenses etc. Lovers have to try hard if their parents don’t agree with the relation. That is why it is said that Love is not an easy way out!

As the partners are happy with their spouse and its their own decision to marry him/her, love marriages should be successful but not all love marriages have happy endings. Sometimes discord arises even in love marriages. After spending a happy time of marriage, the same couple can be seen regretting on their decisions. They found hard to save the marriage and at last have to break up. If they them self chosen their partner and had a perfect tuning then why this unhappy end of the relation after marriage?

Perhaps to avoid this kind of ending, now-a-days youngsters prefer arranged marriages. It is thought that arranged marriages happen only in the east but this was not always so arranged marriages were happening even in Victorian Europe. The best part in an arranged marriage is that parents and the family is happy and they them self arrange the marriage. There is no tears and no battle for their permission. Arrange marriage offer more protection and security to the women. There is not much pressure on the women to look like models. Parents employ maturity and wise judgment when choosing suitable spouses for their children.

Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn’t want their children to marry outside their community and caste. In some case, by love marriage people lost all things like parents, society and religion. But after World War II and industrial revolution people’s perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. Slowly but steadily, love marriages are acceptable in Indian society also.

To decide which one is ideal is an unending debate. Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. A marriage needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain the relation.

So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it’s all about the way you perceive your marriage. The target is the happiness and stability of the relation in the marriage whether it is love or arranged.

Tags: Arranged Marriage, India, Love, Marriage, Society

If you want to get back your lost love or want to stop your break up or a divorce, here comes the magic steps which can immensely help you even if you think your situation is hopeless. You have to just do and say the RIGHT things at the right time.

1) Avoid strange things while in Pain and Fear: Situation of pain and fear while losing the love can make you doing some strange things which should be avoided to get back your ex love. When anyone is in pain, he/she feels very insecure and starts doing some strange things that we never believed we are capable of. For instance in such a week moment, we apologize profusely for mistakes that we don’t believe we committed. We try to convince them hard that it wasn’t our fault. These things only increase troubles in getting back our love. The unrealistic promises giving the pseudo feeling that we have tried everything we could, should be avoided.

2) Take responsibility: If you have a break up and want your love back, put the other things and reasons aside and take the responsibility of the break. Although you both are involved in the break up but you are also responsible for that somewhere and to some extent.

3) Put your ego aside: Ego is the biggest enemy of any relation. It is like a slow poison which ruins the relation. Put your ego aside and be first to ask him/ her to come back in your life. True love never fails. Your efforts will

4) Impatience is your enemy, avoid it:  Impatience compels you to take action out of fear and we know that causes more mistakes and bigger mistakes. Have patience although hard but control as far as possible. Impatience is just that little voice inside your head that tells you, you can’t be happy until you know your love is glad to be back. But this feeling can lead to disasters. Be patient and try to get back your love with the above magic steps.

Love is a feeling you can’t express in words. It is a fragrance you can’t catch but you can feel and hold the magic by avoiding that every thing which can harm your love. It is a commitment you have to follow. Avoid misunderstandings and try your level best to get back your love and make it last.

Also read the article on 5 Steps to survive Break ups?

Tags: Break Ups, Future, Life, Love, Relationship, Survival

Loss of a close relationship can make anyone to go in pain and depression. Sometimes a break up leading to a break down becomes very hard to cope with. Futures become scary and dark but STOP!  Life continues and we have to face it with courage. It’s only you who can help yourself to come out of the state of depression and control the situation.

Yes, the task is really hard but there are some steps that will help you in controlling the situation:

1) Interact with people- First thing you have to take care is to not spend your time alone in this situation. It is needed to be surrounded by people, either your family or friends. Call them, talk to them or you can also join a group for new hobbies to distract yourself from that painful happening.  Go for movies, group sports or your favorite music and dance and keep your mind relaxed and free from stress.

2) Avoid blame game- Don’t ever play a blame game. Take the responsibility as blaming each other will not help or mend the relationship. You was also an active part of that relationship and you are also responsible for both, its success and failure. However you are not the only one to blame.

3) Give yourself time to heal- It is tough to forget the lost love immediately but its okay to grieve for it.  Give yourself some time. Time is the best medicine to heal every pain of life. You might got angry and vent out your anger, let it go as your friends understands your situation. Just give some time to heal up.

4) Don’t stay depressed and move on– Now you are giving time to heal yourself and interacting with people. You need not to stay in the environment of sadness and grief. Just come out of it and move on. Think positive and forget the past. It will make no sense to just keep thinking and shedding tears for which you have lost and which will not come back again. You can go for a date just to make your mood light. If you’re not very comfortable with dating as yet go for a double date. Just move on the positive track of life!

5) Don’t force a new relationship- If you don’t found comfortable with any new girl/boy, just leave it. This kind of relationship will not mend your heart nor will it replace your other relationship. Try to spend some time with those with whom you found comfortable and you like their company. Do not force yourself to just stick with any buddy to forget the past.

These ways, though needs a lot of effort from your side but definitely will help you to come out of the mourning phase of your life and will make you feel good again.

Tags: Break Ups, Future, Life, Love, Relationship, Survival

An array of new exciting web addresses for the web will be used soon giving a new look to the internet. The common domain names - .com and .edu will be the old stuff as the new flavor of a variety of web addresses like .love, .sky, .sports etc is waiting for you.

The Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers (Icann) approved measures that will allow top-level domain names to be written in scripts such as Arabic or Cyrillic.

After that any company, organization or country will soon be able to apply for a new Web address extension, called a top-level domain. Icann adopted the new rules after a meeting in Paris.

Top-level domain names (TLD) , refer to Internet name suffixes like .com, .net and .org, among others. Currently, there are more than 200 TLDs, which also include the two-character country codes used by Web sites, such as Britain’s .uk.

“This is a historic resolution,” said Peter Dengate Thrush, chairman of Icann’s board. “It’s going to make a big difference to how the Internet looks and works.”

On Thursday, Internet regulators voted to relax rules on domain names like .com or .edu, which could pave the way for companies or individuals to create new flavored addresses for the Web.

Icann officials said some technical issues for the new system must still be worked out, but it could be reviewing the first applications for new TLDs as early as next spring. Icann officials estimated that prices would start in the low six figures, so the organization can recoup its expenses for developing the new service.

Under the new system, individuals, companies or groups could apply to have any string of letters established as a domain name. It could be a vanity name, for example — .smith — or a category name like .sports or .perfume. A company could also change its domain to reflect its brand, so Apple.com could become Apple.mac, for instance.

It could also sow confusion in the minds of Web users, create a host of new ways to exploit the Web addressing system and start a wave of legal skirmishes over applications to register trademarks — .coke, for example.

The Icann board said it would seek public comment on the guidelines before its next major meeting in November.

Tags: .com, .edu, .sky, Arabic, Britain, Cyrillic, Domain, Domain Names, Icann, Love, Sports, TLD, Top Level Domain, Web Address

Chatting and dating, the two most recent obsessions among the youth have so well gelled with each other that the present youngsters have totally been swallowed up by their mobile phones and the computers.

Messengers, social networking sites, dating sites, all have been ruling the worlds of the present generation.

It’s not that I am anti technology or anti dating, but what is the most important for me is the purity of soul and heart.

’Dating’, the gen-next name for a relationship has modified the meanings of love to the masses. People getting committed and then single and then committed is a very general notion but somewhere it is killing the serenity and beauty of the true and heartfelt feelings in a relationship

Where in today’s time, an objection to the mingling of the opposite sex people with each other would be considered narrow mindedness, the ethics of a relationship say your partner is your soul, your inner strength and the passion to live. If we go by this, then why we do see committed or married people flirting around on networking, dating sites or on secret chat rooms.

A guy usually having tons of female friends succeeds to propose and get into a relationship easily. But that one girl who is a spec in the whole sand dune of girls around that guy is unaware of his flirtatious attitude. I do not blame it all on the male sex, it is quite common with the females as well and neither do I quote that it is every person who is of this nature. A true and a genuine lover would have all the love, affection n time for his/her partner, prioritize him/her over any one and would never hide any kind of friends or things from him. Loyalty is the word for it.

I’d like to end it by saying that technology is a boon and should be used for our benefits and not to fulfill our desires that destroy the belief in emotions, and relationships.

I ask you people if I have been forced to write on this topic and authenticity of the relationships today, isn’t this a common scenario….???

Tags: Chatting, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Young Generation

Today technology is playing an important role in making new relations. Increased interest in internet dating is turning the relations hi-tech. Dating sites are no more new for the people today but the same has increased the risk of being cheated. There is no basis of faith and trust on anyone on internet sites and internet fraud, many times, costs a lot of money to the victims.

Rashmi Verma, who recently met Vinod through internet dating site, was very excited to meet him. When she went to the specified place to meet Vinod, she waited for 5 long hours and no one arrived to see her. It was clear that she was cheated.

“I was devastated,” she said. “He wound up winning my heart.”

Number of people joining these sites is increasing day by day. In case of fraud, not only the people get hurt emotionally but many times have to bear financial loses also.

The cheater usually tries to make a strong emotional bond with the prey through constant communication. The relationship can long for even 6-8 months.

A recent case of financial fraud romance case was of a Bangalore girl named Priyanka who met Rajeev on a dating site. Priyanka was told by Rajeev of course that he was a civil engineer who came to Bangalore for a contract of constructing some roads.

After the first month of chit-chat, phone numbers are exchanged between the two and slowly Rajeev won the heart of Priyanka.

Priyanka, on her side, had done some light research to calm down her suspicions on him and got sure enough after finding on internet that he was accepting bids for building roads.

After getting her full faith, demands started from his side. First some little demands which were continued to direct cash requests. At first he said that his mobile was missing and Priyanka bought a new one for him.

Later he asked a help of Rs 5000 at start for some urgent work. Priyanka gave him the amount. But when he asked for more Rs 5000, she got a sinking feeling. But she made Rs 2000 to give him.

Finally she did a serious enquiry about him when he told that he had been in an accident and needed some money immediately. On the site his photo was there and she found that he was a fraud.

Match.com, aware of the risks of dating online, provides tips for users to help avoid that one “bad apple.”

“We do … encourage members to do their own research on potential love matches, including asking questions, utilizing Internet search engines, and most importantly, use common sense,” the site says.

There were 206,884 complaints regarding Internet fraud last year, costing victims more than $239 million, according to the FBI Internet Crime Report.

Scammers usually work on internet from other countries and use photos of others they find online. A simple Google search sometimes can help finding that the person is genuine or using someone others name and photo.

An expert advice is only that be cautious, learn as much as you can about your online suitor. Do not direct your home to any one and don’t give any financial help to any one you didn’t met ever.

Tags: Dating, Love, Romance, Wallet