Posts Tagged ‘Girl’

Love Marriage!

Oct 16, 2008 Relationship Advice

Have you seen the movies Sathiya and Chalte Chalte? These are simple love stories but they depict a stark reality of life. Be it love marriage or arranged marriage, the initial fervor of love is sure to get buried under the burden of responsibilities and practicalities of life. Then the cute love story of a boy met a girl, fell in love at first sight, said he would do anything to marry the girl, fought with his own parents, ran and got married and dreamt of staying happily in love forever, sounds like a fallacy.

Why does every love story meet the same fate? The reason is simple. Before you tie the knot, you can live in the fantasy land and dream about whatever you want to. In this journey you include your girlfriend or boyfriend also and everything looks rosy.  There is no responsibility except the craziness for each other. And the biggest factor is that you still are living separately and don’t have full control over each other. But the moment you get married, subconsciously you start taking your spouse for granted from day one. You don’t have to get ready to go and meet her/him in the evenings anymore. That person is with you 24 * 7.

Another important factor is that after marriage not only does your family, your society but even your spouse expects you to behave maturely and responsibly. They would no longer neglect your mistakes. You are required to behave as a reliable family member and expected to follow all the rules and regulations of the family.

It’s rightfully said that any kind of marriage can only work if there is mutual understanding and compatibility. The initial passion can only be sustained over the years by constant hard work. You cannot expect your spouse to keep showering sweet nothings on you till eternity. Every marriage has to sail through ups and downs and only those marriages survive the test of time which are build on strong foundation of trust, mutual respect and adjustments. Every marriage expects some level of compromise from both the partners. You have to nurture the values of humility and patience to make your marriage work. Love marriages can also work only if “I” changes to “us” and remains like that forever.

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Pregnant ‘man’ gives birth to a girl!

Jul 5, 2008 World

A man who was born a woman has given birth to a girl child at an Oregon hospital on June 29, Sunday. Reportedly the baby is “healthy and doing well” which was conceived through artificial insemination using donor sperm and Beatie’s own eggs.

10 years back, Thomas Beatie, 34, began his sexual transformation to become a man. He was subjected to hormone treatment and surgery to remove mammary glands for a flat chest.  But he kept his female reproductive organ and gave birth to a girl baby on June 29 as reported by People magazine on Thursday.

He had given birth naturally, not by Caesarean section. No other birth details were given by him.

“The only thing different about me is that I can’t breast-feed my baby. But a lot of mothers don’t,” People quoted Beatie as saying. He has had his breasts surgically removed.

Five years back Beatie got married to Nancy. She was unable to conceive because of a prior hysterectomy. Otherwise, he has said, “I wouldn’t be doing this.”

The couple, who operate a T-shirt printing business in Bend, Oregon, are legally married and he is recognized under Oregon state law as a man. Nancy,46,  has two grown daughters by a previous marriage.

Two years back, when Beatie decided to gave birth to a child, he halted his bimonthly hormone injections and resumed menstruating.

She said on Oprah’s show their parental roles would be fairly traditional despite his transgenders status. “He’s going to be the father, and I’m going to be the mother,” she said.

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New initiative to remove gender discrimination!

Mar 5, 2008 Special Feature

The recent move of Renuka Chowdhury, India’s minister for women and child development is an appreciable step towards removing gender discrimination. She is trying to give all the deserving rights to female population in the country. After all men and women both are equally important not only for a family but for a successful country. To be a part of successful and developed nation, gender discrimination must be buried.

Gender imbalance in India is due to the negative thoughts for girl child. They are taken as the second sex anyway. All major rights are provided to males in a family. Hence a girl child is aborted before she came on earth. People usually the poor families used to abort the girl child and to reduce the same, government has decided to provide a small help of £1,500 to the poor families to take care of the girl child. After all a girl child is also a god gift, then why it shouldn’t be accepted. She is not a burden but can do what men can.

An initial payment of 15,500 rupees will be given to the poor families who will be willing to raise a daughter. When she reaches 18, the family will be given 100,000 rupees should she be able to meet certain criteria set and remains unmarried.

21st century women is not only a homemaker, she is doing well in all the fields from professional to technical to every business sector. In many families, they are the only responsible candidate than why they should be seen low? No, they should provide the same status and position that of men. They should have an equal important part in family and outside that of men.

Chowdhary expects that the effort will surely do help in improving the status of girl child. Daughters would be no more a burden for the parents. There is a need of awareness among the people and the effort is a considerable step for the same.

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