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If you want to get back your lost love or want to stop your break up or a divorce, here comes the magic steps which can immensely help you even if you think your situation is hopeless. You have to just do and say the RIGHT things at the right time.

1) Avoid strange things while in Pain and Fear: Situation of pain and fear while losing the love can make you doing some strange things which should be avoided to get back your ex love. When anyone is in pain, he/she feels very insecure and starts doing some strange things that we never believed we are capable of. For instance in such a week moment, we apologize profusely for mistakes that we don’t believe we committed. We try to convince them hard that it wasn’t our fault. These things only increase troubles in getting back our love. The unrealistic promises giving the pseudo feeling that we have tried everything we could, should be avoided.

2) Take responsibility: If you have a break up and want your love back, put the other things and reasons aside and take the responsibility of the break. Although you both are involved in the break up but you are also responsible for that somewhere and to some extent.

3) Put your ego aside: Ego is the biggest enemy of any relation. It is like a slow poison which ruins the relation. Put your ego aside and be first to ask him/ her to come back in your life. True love never fails. Your efforts will

4) Impatience is your enemy, avoid it:  Impatience compels you to take action out of fear and we know that causes more mistakes and bigger mistakes. Have patience although hard but control as far as possible. Impatience is just that little voice inside your head that tells you, you can’t be happy until you know your love is glad to be back. But this feeling can lead to disasters. Be patient and try to get back your love with the above magic steps.

Love is a feeling you can’t express in words. It is a fragrance you can’t catch but you can feel and hold the magic by avoiding that every thing which can harm your love. It is a commitment you have to follow. Avoid misunderstandings and try your level best to get back your love and make it last.

Also read the article on 5 Steps to survive Break ups?

Tags: Break Ups, Future, Life, Love, Relationship, Survival

Loss of a close relationship can make anyone to go in pain and depression. Sometimes a break up leading to a break down becomes very hard to cope with. Futures become scary and dark but STOP!  Life continues and we have to face it with courage. It’s only you who can help yourself to come out of the state of depression and control the situation.

Yes, the task is really hard but there are some steps that will help you in controlling the situation:

1) Interact with people- First thing you have to take care is to not spend your time alone in this situation. It is needed to be surrounded by people, either your family or friends. Call them, talk to them or you can also join a group for new hobbies to distract yourself from that painful happening.  Go for movies, group sports or your favorite music and dance and keep your mind relaxed and free from stress.

2) Avoid blame game- Don’t ever play a blame game. Take the responsibility as blaming each other will not help or mend the relationship. You was also an active part of that relationship and you are also responsible for both, its success and failure. However you are not the only one to blame.

3) Give yourself time to heal- It is tough to forget the lost love immediately but its okay to grieve for it.  Give yourself some time. Time is the best medicine to heal every pain of life. You might got angry and vent out your anger, let it go as your friends understands your situation. Just give some time to heal up.

4) Don’t stay depressed and move on– Now you are giving time to heal yourself and interacting with people. You need not to stay in the environment of sadness and grief. Just come out of it and move on. Think positive and forget the past. It will make no sense to just keep thinking and shedding tears for which you have lost and which will not come back again. You can go for a date just to make your mood light. If you’re not very comfortable with dating as yet go for a double date. Just move on the positive track of life!

5) Don’t force a new relationship- If you don’t found comfortable with any new girl/boy, just leave it. This kind of relationship will not mend your heart nor will it replace your other relationship. Try to spend some time with those with whom you found comfortable and you like their company. Do not force yourself to just stick with any buddy to forget the past.

These ways, though needs a lot of effort from your side but definitely will help you to come out of the mourning phase of your life and will make you feel good again.

Tags: Break Ups, Future, Life, Love, Relationship, Survival