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Picture this, your girlfriend wants to go to that happening pub for a date but you can’t afford it, especially with the recession going on and the recent pay cut has affected you. So what do you do?  Doesn’t panic if you are also in a situation like this? With the recession going on, people have been affected in many aspects, including their love relationships. So let me guide you through these quick budget dating tips which won’t be heavy on your pocket and at the same time would give you the pleasure of a satisfactory date.

Try meeting at each other’s place: this is probably one of the best options in the time of recession. Try cooking a meal for each other at home rather than ordering from outside. This would not only be light on your pocket, but would also help you in improving your relationship. By meeting at home, you can also spend quality time with each other and talk about whatever you like which you can’t do by meeting outside.

Go museum: museums are another place where you can enjoy and spend less at the same time. The tickets and food at museums are much cheaper and people visiting are less. So you can have some degree of privacy as well. It’s All the better if one of the partner has interest in the museum’s belongings.

Morning shows of movies: nothing can beat catching a movie at a theater when it comes to dating. So try watching the morning shows as the tickets cost less at that time. Also avoid multiplexes and go for single screens as multiplexes are expensive. With recession going on, certain theaters have slashed their ticket prices so catching a movie I certainly a better options.

Be vegetarian: ok so you have to take your darling out for dinner and you can’t avoid it in any circumstance; so try and be a vegetarian. Choose a vegetarian restaurant for the dinner date as vegetarian food is less expensive than non-vegetarian food. Also rather than going to expensive dinner destinations, you can try other cheap options like a nice dhaba or college canteens.

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You promise to stay together till the last breath but you left me alone when I am still breathing.

Are words so easy to be spoken that one does not even want to keep it and do not feel embarrassed in not keeping it. Why don’t we have laws for all those who back out from what they say and don’t mean it later? Why things become so difficult between the ones who were considered to be the most compatible. Once Shahrukh Khan said “You are together till you want to be together and if any relationship fails that’s not because you no more compatible, that’s because you are no more dedicated to it.”

What is love? - Different people with very different meanings. But what can be one common meaning among all the different answers – Love is Unconditional. Two people coming together mentally and physically, becoming two bodies and one soul (the very filmy way of interpreting it) are actually with two different minds, two different temperaments and with two different likings ( as opposites attract each other)  and therefore how one can expect the other to behave and react in the same manner. That’s why we say Love is unconditional where you respect your partner the way he/ she is – Good or Bad or Whatever.

Accept the person the way he/she is because you have decided to spend life with each other forever and ever. But what If your partner starts taking an undue advantage of this statement, Changes behavior like a chameleon? Here we trust our instincts and take a call. Few will sit, talk and discuss and would give their best to make it happen and few other would just walk off leaving the partner behind. The ones who discuss are the ones who want to fight with the situation and believe in themselves, their decisions and the later ones are self centered who believe in no compromise life not at the cost of their happiness.

I like writing Fiction and this is one soul touching work of mine. I would appreciate to get your comments on the same.

Thank You
Namrata Dixit
Freelance Journalist & Writer

Tags: Break Up, Love, Love Relationship, Relationship

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Probably the most complex thing in our lives is relationships. You don’t even get a hint when they break. Making a relationship work is not something which happens automatically. You have work towards it step by step. It takes effort and hard work to make a relationship work. And since these days relationships break just with the wink of an eye, surviving a relationship has become very tough. Most people these days suffer from depression and unhappy social lives because their relationships don’t work. You will have to put in some amount of effort, only then will a relationship work. So let’s go through some “must do’s” for making a relationship click-

Don’t let your past relationships haunt you: The most common problem with many people is that they don’t get over their past relationships easily. Though it is true that when you are emotionally attached to a person, parting ways with him can become difficult but it’s not impossible. You have to accept that the relationship is no longer a part of your life and you have to get over it. When you forget your past, you become more ‘free’ and try to open to new people and possibilities.

Speak your mind: It is very important in any relationship to speak out your mind. When a person starts shying away from speaking openly to the other person in a relationship then it always creates problems. Also the possibilities of misunderstanding crop up when you do not talk out openly. Clearly stating what you want and expect is surely a better way.

Don’t change your inner self for any relationship: You may come across many relationships in your life where the other person demands you to change your personality or attitude. They may even ask you to do such things which you are not willing to do. In such a case, don’t ever surrender. You are what you are and the other person should love you and respect you for what you are, not for what you can become.

Tags: Break Up, Break Ups, Life, Relationship, Relationship Advice

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The reasons for differences in behavioral characteristics and traits of men and women have always been a little enigmatic for all of us.  Several theories have been proposed as to why men retreat to the “cave” and why a “wave” is a natural cycle for women. There have been many insightful books like “Men are from mars and Women are from Venus” that chalk out these differences of the two sexes. Let’s try and analyze one such difference between men and women today through this forum. Are females blessed with better judgment abilities than men?

Let’s reverse time to the prehistoric ages when men went out to hunt animals, often for days or weeks away from their families: sometimes in groups and sometimes alone, while the females took care of the household chores and the children, together with the other females and were never alone. Men used their intelligence to set up traps and to chase the animals in a clever way. Their judgments helped them to overcome the power of their prey in hunting. Their intelligence helped them be better judges of the unpredictable environments in which they used to hunt. If they went out alone, there would be no interaction with other humans where they could learn the art of recognizing facial expressions, emotions, feelings in other people, and detect cheating, lying, deceiving and dishonesty. Even if they went with a group, their sole purpose of interaction would be to chalk out strategies of hunting rather than socializing. On the other hand, women became better judges of human emotions because they had to constantly monitor these emotions in their children (females had to be good in recognizing the emotions of their children to find out when they were sick, hungry, thirsty etc). Not only this, since womenfolk stayed together in the absence of men folk, they had to develop socializing and networking skills. This would bring them in close contact with individuals of different characteristics, making them better judges of human emotions.

The crux of this discussion is that where men are better at planning and making strategies, women have been given the gift of an understanding heart to comprehend emotions.

Tags: Behaviour, Characteristics, hungry, Mars, Men, Men & Women, Sick, thirsty, Traits, Venus, Women

Have you seen the movies Sathiya and Chalte Chalte? These are simple love stories but they depict a stark reality of life. Be it love marriage or arranged marriage, the initial fervor of love is sure to get buried under the burden of responsibilities and practicalities of life. Then the cute love story of a boy met a girl, fell in love at first sight, said he would do anything to marry the girl, fought with his own parents, ran and got married and dreamt of staying happily in love forever, sounds like a fallacy.

Why does every love story meet the same fate? The reason is simple. Before you tie the knot, you can live in the fantasy land and dream about whatever you want to. In this journey you include your girlfriend or boyfriend also and everything looks rosy.  There is no responsibility except the craziness for each other. And the biggest factor is that you still are living separately and don’t have full control over each other. But the moment you get married, subconsciously you start taking your spouse for granted from day one. You don’t have to get ready to go and meet her/him in the evenings anymore. That person is with you 24 * 7.

Another important factor is that after marriage not only does your family, your society but even your spouse expects you to behave maturely and responsibly. They would no longer neglect your mistakes. You are required to behave as a reliable family member and expected to follow all the rules and regulations of the family.

It’s rightfully said that any kind of marriage can only work if there is mutual understanding and compatibility. The initial passion can only be sustained over the years by constant hard work. You cannot expect your spouse to keep showering sweet nothings on you till eternity. Every marriage has to sail through ups and downs and only those marriages survive the test of time which are build on strong foundation of trust, mutual respect and adjustments. Every marriage expects some level of compromise from both the partners. You have to nurture the values of humility and patience to make your marriage work. Love marriages can also work only if “I” changes to “us” and remains like that forever.

Tags: Arranged Marriage, Boy, Chalte Chalte, Family, Girl, Life, Love at First Sight, Love Marriage, Love Stories, Marriage, Parents, Relationship, Sathiya, Society

Parenting is a major responsibility, more so for a single parent. A single parent has to bear with added responsibilities, tensions and pressures. Either due to separation, divorce or death of a spouse, a single parent is left alone to deal with multiple tasks. You have to be a father and a mother at the same time. You need to have the tenderness and understanding of a mother, yet be firm and strong like a father. This dual portrayal may get overwhelming for some at times. But if single parenting is handled in a mature way, it can develop into a strong bond between the parent and the child.

A single parent has to take care of all the physical and emotional needs of the child by himself or herself. Right from personal hygiene, dietary habits, school work, punctuality and peer group, so on and so forth….. The list can be unending. You can partially share this responsibility with the child’s grandparents or a trusted friend or even a loyal maidservant. But you are ultimately responsible at the end of the day. So, never regret this responsibility. Childhood is a very fragile phase and any wrong impression can ruin your relationship forever.

You have to remember that no matter how smart you are, by the end of the day you are making decisions for your child all alone. They may not be the most appropriate decisions always. So, confide in your trusted relatives while taking important decisions concerning your child’s future, be it education or hostel accommodation or foreign travel. This will not only give you moral strength but also add more credibility to the final decision made. If you are on talking terms with your ex-spouse (now separated), consult him or her on major occasions. After all, the child is his or hers also. He or she might have some important and useful ideas to contribute.

A child’s mind is like an unwritten book. You can scribble anything onto it. So be very careful as to what you teach your child. As far as possible, never let your bitterness, bad experiences, annoyance and anger; infect your child’s psyche. Never ever poison the child’s mind against the separated spouse. And make the child realize the importance of friendships and lasting human relationships. If you honor your ex relationship, your child will hold you in even higher esteem then he or she normally does. You cannot change past, but you can definitely shape the present and the future.

When taking care of a child single handedly, it’s more important to remember that you are not only a parent, but a human being as well. It is very easy to get carried away and try to do everything for your child yourself, without taking any outside help. This is bound to burn you out very soon and you might end up getting frustrated and you may start taking out these emotions on your child. Don’t compromise your own social life in trying to be a good parent. It would only make matters worse. If you are working, you must come home feeling healthy and happy. Try to spread your responsibility or else you may spend quantity time rather than quality time with your child. For example, never feel guilty while employing a housemaid or a cooking help.

A child misses a parent the most on occasions like Parent’s day when he or she sees the other children with both set of parents. Prepare yourself and your child for such situations. Talk about these problems. Never let such issues spoil your child’s fun. Tell the child to never hide the fact that he or she has a single parent. Of course, that does not mean that the child volunteers this information, but let the issue of single parenting not be a shameful secret. Or else, the child will turn hypersensitive and withdrawn. Never let your child develop any personality disorder. You should take the initiative from the initial years. As is said, attitude is everything. Therefore, if you don’t indulge in bouts of self-pity and depression, single parenting will not unsettle your child.

Tags: Death, Decisions, Divorce, Emotional, Father, Mother, Parent, Parenting, Physical, Pressures, Problems, Responsibilities, Seperation, Single Parent, Spouse, Tensions

You may have ended a relationship but you might be in a situation where you have to keep in touch with your ex. It might be due to kids or just a common circle of friends. Bumping into your ex after a breakup can be very awkward but if handled in a mature way, it can be comfortable too.

When you are in public where you both have to be together for some time, try to be extra cautious of not bringing up subjects which might bring back old memories. The past may have been good or bad, if brought back to present it would just ruin the moment for both of you.

If you broke up, it would mean that something went wrong somewhere. Your ex may not have been able to adjust to one of your habits or may not have liked one of your traits. Behave in a mature and careful way and try to avoid the display of the behavior which was not acceptable to him or her. Being rigid about being yourself may just put both of you in a ridiculous situation with one of you taking offense again and doing something unreasonable.

Try to talk to your ex beforehand. If you both can mutually agree to stand each other for the time you are together, then the entire experience may actually turn out exciting for both of you. Talk it out in advance with each other. Let the other person know how you feel and what you expect from your ex.

When you are looking to move ahead and still talk with your ex, make sure that you are under control and can cope with your emotions.  If you are going to explode out of anger or if you are going to shut down out of depression, it might be too soon to really get any good communication going.

Tags: Depression, Ex GF, EX Girl Friend, Ex Girlfriend, Girl Friend, Girlfriend, Relationship

It is said very rightly - What we can’t say to god can be shared with a friend.

Every relation on Earth is gifted with one’s birth except the magical relation ’FRIENDSHIP’. Mother, Father, sister, brother, uncle, aunty all relations are served ready made with our birth but Friendship is the only relation on Earth which we make by our own choice and likes. However, there is no need of any special day to express our feelings towards friends. They are always around us to help, to share and to celebrate but the first Sunday of August is dedicated to all those who believe in Friendship and is celebrated as the World Friendship Day.

Today, August 3, Sunday is all about Friends and Friendship. It is a very noble feeling which needs no explanation. First Sunday of August was declared as a holiday in US in honor of friends by a Proclamation made by US Congress in 1935. Since then, World Friendship Day is being celebrated every year on the first Sunday in the month of August.

The beautiful idea of celebrating the day was accepted by all those who believe in Friends and Friendship. People exchanges wishes and cards with gifts on this day to disclose how special someone is without any blood relation or any family relation. They express love for their friends and cherish their presence in life.

Being a friend is not just sharing good days with them but to provide a warm touch of your hand during their low moments, to hear their silence and to feel their affection.

Also there are lots of Bollywood movies based on friendship. The topic is cooked in many films and songs for long time. Friendship today is all about hypocrisy. It’s hard to find a real friend in today’s selfish world. Earlier, pen friend was the basic concept of making friend but today the concept is totally changed. Social sites on internet are famous among youngsters. Unknown people share a hi-bye and then forget. This is not what we can say friendship. It is the relation which needs a complete dedication and a life time attachment and concern. However, it is not needed that friends meet and talk daily.

If you have a true friend then you are very lucky. Enjoy your friendship and have a celebration today!

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Which one is better - Love marriage or arranged? The issue is debatable all over the globe especially in eastern countries where arrange marriage is a tradition. As you read this question which option strikes in your mind first and why?

Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. Love marriage is supposed to provide freedom and more independence as compared to arranged marriages where the girl/boy is chosen by the parents. The usual question of love marriage voters against arranged one is that how can anyone marry the person whom they don’t know?

Amid popular love lore like Soni Mahiwal, India always had a long tradition of arranged marriages. With the advent of the British and the subsequent introduction of British education system more Indians got educated. Education and exposure to the media, started to make people to think and realize they need not be bound by tradition and they can choose their own marital partners without having to rely on parents, matchmakers, relatives or having to consult astrologers. This gave rise to love marriages. Currently in our country we have arranged as well as love marriages taking place.

If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both has certain pros and cons. If we talk about the love marriages first, it provides time for a mutual understanding between the partners which is needed for any successful relation. Knowing somebody before marriage allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other’s needs and desires. This way they are better adjusted in the marriage when they finally take their wedding vows. In arrange marriages, there is a pressure to conform to parental expectations like producing a male heir, taking part in family rituals and traditions, putting up with sisters-in-laws, contributing to family expenses etc. Lovers have to try hard if their parents don’t agree with the relation. That is why it is said that Love is not an easy way out!

As the partners are happy with their spouse and its their own decision to marry him/her, love marriages should be successful but not all love marriages have happy endings. Sometimes discord arises even in love marriages. After spending a happy time of marriage, the same couple can be seen regretting on their decisions. They found hard to save the marriage and at last have to break up. If they them self chosen their partner and had a perfect tuning then why this unhappy end of the relation after marriage?

Perhaps to avoid this kind of ending, now-a-days youngsters prefer arranged marriages. It is thought that arranged marriages happen only in the east but this was not always so arranged marriages were happening even in Victorian Europe. The best part in an arranged marriage is that parents and the family is happy and they them self arrange the marriage. There is no tears and no battle for their permission. Arrange marriage offer more protection and security to the women. There is not much pressure on the women to look like models. Parents employ maturity and wise judgment when choosing suitable spouses for their children.

Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn’t want their children to marry outside their community and caste. In some case, by love marriage people lost all things like parents, society and religion. But after World War II and industrial revolution people’s perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. Slowly but steadily, love marriages are acceptable in Indian society also.

To decide which one is ideal is an unending debate. Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. A marriage needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain the relation.

So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it’s all about the way you perceive your marriage. The target is the happiness and stability of the relation in the marriage whether it is love or arranged.

Tags: Arranged Marriage, India, Love, Marriage, Society

In the world of internet, most of the relationships start with online dating. Way to find love and a life partner too can be through internet. Online dating was a rare thing to follow earlier but no-a-days trend has changed. People prefer online dating as it suits their busy schedules also. Online dating is not just for young singles, you can be 19 or 90, black or white, spiritual or not, and so on, and enjoy online dating. Today’s market on the internet is flooded with quality dating services designed to meet all types of people and lifestyles. But do you know how to start for a successful online date?? What are the various aspects to be taken care to get something better in this online dating world??

From general Do’s and Don’ts of online relationships, to using the various dating services available online, there are a few tips for all users.

With hundreds of online dating services, choosing a one can be a difficult task. The important thing is to always read the Privacy Policy, About Us page, and the FAQ page. It will provide the insight of that service, helping make the decision easier.

Then coming to your online dating profile; it should be the perfect and appreciable.

“Look around; you tell me — how good are profiles these days,” said Evan Marc Katz, dating expert and author of “I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating.” Katz has written some 500 profiles for clients on his online profile writing service, E-Cyrano.

Profile should be specific. Be daring to share your likes and dislikes clearly. It should contain updated information with appealing description with a fascinating photograph too. Old photos are the most negative part in a profile.

Be honest in your writings. Being there means that you people hopefully want to meet each other in future, then there should be an honest relation from the start.

Another piece of advice is to drop the bad vibes. Most people know exactly what they are not seeking, but pointing that out repels potential dates.

Instead of saying certain types need not apply — an alcoholic who can’t pay his bills, say, or old men under five-feet — tell people what you are looking for, Katz said. “Your job is not to stop the wrong people from writing to you but attracting the right people.”

Also there are some disadvantages with tremendous advantages of online dating. With online dating, you are learning about a person on words only! U can’t see him like in traditional dating. While this is great for getting to know someone very clear in the words by heart and not their looks, it also creates the challenge in that you cannot see the reactions that go along with the words.

Unfortunately, far too many people start sharing some very intimate and personal things as they try to overcome the barrier of not having a visual connection. This is not the right time to share certain aspects of your life initially. When you first start communicating with a person, the tone should be light and fun. If that friendship builds over time, then other more personal details can be discussed. You should take extra care regarding safety when considering online dating.

If these aspects are taken care then you will definitely not regret of using online dating and will get what you are what you are looking for. Next Valentine’s Day will be all yours following these tips!

Tags: Communication, Dating, Relationship