Secrets of A Happy Married Life!

We all have heard marriage of two individuals is a bond for their present lives and many more to come. Along with the physical bond and mental bond, it a spiritual bond between the two of them. Marriage demands a lot of sacrifice and they are just not made of romantic weekends, candlelight dinners and buying gifts for your spouse, the secret lies in the fact that the two understand each other and the wife is to stand by every decision that her husband takes for the family and advice him whenever she thinks that things won’t work out.

Newly married couples who start their married life do face some problems initially but as time passes things become simply and good. If it is an arranged marriage, girls do face some problems to know the family, and the biggest thing knowing the one whom she is married to. She doesn’t know his habits, his likes and dislikes and is often heartbroken when she does something for her and he doesn’t like that. In such situation the guys must try and understand her feelings with which she wanted to present something to him. Rather than rejecting that special gesture of your wife try and accept that and if in case you do not like it, tell her some other time as to what your likes and dislikes are. This means you need to spend some time with her, till the time you both know each other well.

Now, when it comes to love marriage, girls have to face a very few problems. She has to know the family well. But then when she knows that her love, who is now her husband is there to support him, she is relaxed and then things become really smooth going.

But then whether your marriage is love or arranged or love cum arranged, sacrifices, problems in adjustments with a new family altogether, all this is followed by restrictions, which may sometimes make things worse for the newly married girl. This is the time when she wants her husband to support her the most.

Here are a few points which can help you make your marriage bond even stronger.

Respect each other’s views

Men who are dominating hard lend an ear as to what their wives have to say. They think that they are the sole decision makers of the family, but then they do not know that sometimes it’s better to have a second opinion. Make your wife equal partner in whatever you do. A marriage bond demands that much of flexibility, that wife is able to share as to what she thinks about various things around so that she can feel that even her views are respected. Give attention as to what she wants to say.

Listen to each other with patience

Show consideration to your spouse, there might be certain things which are irritating about your spouse at times, but then it is you who has to listen to him/her. They expect you to listen to them; they cannot go to their parents as usual with their problems.

Always give your spouse a priority over every other thing

Your spouse shall be the one in your times of need. Your bestest of friends may let go your problems but your spouse shall take this as an obligation, in order to help you get relieved of any problem. Moreover there are certain things which one can share only with his/her spouse and at later stages it is your spouse who shall be with you and no other friend of yours, therefore try and giver him/her priority over anyone else, they’ll be your true friend in this long journey, called “life”.

Take some time out, just the two of you

Taking break from the strenuous work, go on a vacation with your partner. It should be a time where you two should talk openly, and discuss things. This is one way you can understand each other better. You can opt for going on long drives or walks as per your choice. Take her out for dinner by giving her a break for the day. Avoid taking anyone else with you, because then the situation gets obscene and the two of you end up talking just nothing.

Say “I love you “as often as possible

Probably you can say this whenever you are calling her or him up from office. These are small things that make the bond even stronger and shall remain strong for the rest of your lives. You two will definitely feel close to each other when this sense of concern and care shall grow between the two of you.

Those small gestures say it all

Try waking up him or her in the morning with a warm kiss or a hug. Such pleasant mornings shall definitely make you day and the rest of your lives happy. Take her out for dinner whenever she is not feeling like cooking at home. Keep giving each other small surprises say a bouquet of flowers or gift her a beauty voucher of some salon, women like that the most. Husbands will be happy till the time they get to eat delicious food cooked at home fresh and with love.

Each of you can cook for each other and show that you really appreciate their thought and the food both.

Talk to each other graciously about your thoughts for each other

These kinds of talks fosters communication between the partners. Talk openly; this can help building bridges of thoughts and understanding. Whenever you are angry due to some reason, never say bad word or things to your partner intentionally to hurt him/her this can erase all the good memories and verbal hurts can cause long lasting damage to your relationship.

There can be certain topics which your partner doesn’t like talking about, that could be anything relating to his past or any other topic. Try and not poke him on those issues, doing so you can personally attack your partner.

Try and be patient as much as possible

Marriages are all about adjustments. If in case there is some things that you want desperately and your partner is not able to avail that to you, due to certain problems, in such a case you have to be patient and rather wait for the right time to present your wishes and demands.

There are conflicts between partners, one must know how to handle them –  whenever you feel that there is something wrong, you can embrace them and ask what the matter is. This is the time when you don’t have to ignore him/her and pay attention to and keep in mind those small things that affect the mood of your spouse.

Therefore, one must never miss out on any opportunity of making their spouses feel happy. This will not only give you peace of mind, but also your married life shall be happy and full of beautiful moments so that whenever you look back at them, they shall certainly leave a smile on your face.