Comments on: Love marriage Vs Arranged marriage!

By: Siva

Siva — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 08:55:25 +0000

I have seen lot of love marriages ended in separation within a couple of years due to a number of reasons. In Mumbai 3 out of 5 marriages ended in a short span. All are because of hasty decision on marriage without consulting elders. Our vedic tradition is getting strong in overseas countries, but we are adopting failed strategy of western culture. If one’s fate is to suffer in married life, no one can help. Deceiving parents and leaving aged parents in dust bin, no one will be happy in their love. Without parents blessings and support, no marriage will be successful. Time will teach everyone a good lesson.

By: Balram

Balram — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 09:39:51 +0000

I think that love marriages r good….. n if we think about parents then arrange marriages r better. I just think that, if we think about our parents then that is not bad, but how long they r going to live with us, not more than 15 to 20 years of our marriage.
I also don’t want to hurt my parents but thinking some about personally it is really not good that spoil our life with a wrong life mate. because after them we have suffer for a very long time, really……..
And thinking of other side of this, why our parents don’t think that if our son/daughter is happy with some one then that is good fro there life??
[if someone wants to tell me something then reply me on my e-mail ID. My e-mail ID is brjnec.07@gmail.com]
because I really want some opinions from u my frnds….

By: arindam

arindam — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 07:40:04 +0000

i think arrange is better

By: sachin

sachin — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 11:22:55 +0000

Its quite surprising that our forum does not having a running discussion around the advantages and disadvantages of love vs arrange marriage. As a guide for future singles, please share you opinion on whether love marriage or arranged marriage is better for the long-term happiness of the couple.

From my part, I think arranged marriage is better because of the following.

a. In love marriage, you start with very high expectations that were set during courtship. After marriage as those expectations are not satisfied, your disappointment starts. In arranged marriage, you start with very low (or no) expectations from your spouse. You get pleasantly surprised by everything.

b. As parents and family helped made the marriage possible, they also feel a tacit responsibility to make the marriage work. So, they gloss over minor issues which on the other hand gets amplified in a love marriage.

Would love to hear the thoughts of others as well.

By: Ramneek

Ramneek — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 10:56:26 +0000

In my opinion, Love marriage is the best, i can say so bcoz, i m getting married to a Guy whom i dated for good 7 years. I know all the in & outs about him, which i believe to a certain extent is not quiet possible for one who will go for an arranged marriage. It is very important to know the person completely before u get married to him/her, as at times after marriage you come to a certain point where a lot of mutual understanding is required, and if in case its an arranged marriage then how can u even think to know everything about the girl/boy. and moreover u will never ever get a feeling of being or getting imposed to someone by your parents, which happens in arrange marriage.

By: LL

LL — Mon, 25 May 2009 05:26:49 +0000

I think love marriage is better, not that I have a problem with arranged, but I could not imagine marrying a stranger, I remember when I just started dating a guy and be want to get married after a month I thought this is too fast, I have been dating my guy for 3years and I feel ready and mature for marriage, but honestly this is an individual thing, I have heard of arrange marriage and love marriages not working out, I just think the family disowning part that some people experience is sad, it is never a reason to cut your son/daughter one out of your life over someone they fell in love with…

By: Raja

Raja — Fri, 22 May 2009 09:59:49 +0000

I think arranged marriage is better because you can get lot of dowri from the girl’s family. Sometimes it is enough to start a business… The main reason lots of parents oppose love marriage is that they lose some tens of lakhs of money and kilograms of gold

By: Jaycee

Jaycee — Tue, 19 May 2009 21:48:27 +0000

I personally believe Love marriage is better. I’m currently dating an Indian guy and I’m Asian, we been together for almost 3yrs. now. I have nothing against arrange marriage but bottom line we have the right to choose our life partners and our family should support us in any decision we make. And there is no one to blame but the two people in the relationship if things gone wrong.

By: Ajay

Ajay — Fri, 15 May 2009 07:31:17 +0000

in my opnion love marriage is bettrer than arranged marrage because in love marriage people know to each other his/ her like or dislike

By: Davan Mani

Davan Mani — Sat, 09 May 2009 19:09:23 +0000

I don’t mind arrange marriages but I’m an Indian that lived in white neighborhood, went to white schools, and went to jobs that are white owned. Therefore, I want to be arranged to a white woman. Nothing against Indian women, but my upbringing and identity is white.

But since a young age, I’m told to marry an Indian. Fine. Lets live in a area where it is predominantly Indian, Indian schools, and jobs/oppurtunities are Indian. But Indians don’t like other Indians due to caste, status, or circumstances. They want to live white but want their kids to marry Indians. Bull. I want full-tilt.